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Bad Advice, or Successfully Unfulfilled.

Yesterday I treated several people with a common theme.  A common irony exists in most people I meet.  First, they underestimate their own abilities.  Second, they contrastingly over-commit themselves to helping others.  One wonders how these two things can coexist together.  How can one underestimate oneself while simultaneously over-committing? 

Simple.  Most people commit to things in which their hearts are not set.  They have no faith or deep-seated need to accomplish these things.  In fact, they often agree to accomplish things which they “think,” or “believe” they must do.  Or, they try to fulfill someone else’s ideal of what a person “ought to do.”  Yet these ideas come from some nonexistent place.  I shall explain. 

More often than not when a person is young, he or she is subjected to a variety of conflicting advice and guidance.  In fact, very little of it merits any value for the listener.  Most of it falls into the category of an elder or self-proclaimed elder, trying to convince someone younger, of the elder’s value or nobility.  In reality nothing sublime can be found. 

Thus we receive two kinds of advice.  One seeks to feed the ego of the speaker.  It seeks to make the recreate the youth in terms of what the older person wishes he himself was.  The rarest type hopes to inform.  When we get older, we must remove the first type of indoctrination.  It is the hardest to remove. 

For we do not even know that this poor guidance has embedded itself in our psyches like viruses or parasites which feed the perpetrators of it.  We only discover this information through inference; by watching how the things we claim are dearest to us make us feel.  An example helps here. 

Imagine that you have sought to teach disabled children your entire career.  Yet somehow you are continually sick and horrendously ill.  Being a fairly enlightened person you surrender and renounce all other attachments in your life.  Your diet is impeccable, fitness plan unimpeachable.  No relationships, physical or emotional, impede your commitments to your children. 

But sick you remain.  Eventually, you age faster than your years only to watch those less self-sacrificing grow more beautiful and happier.  How could it be that one as noble as you could suffer so greatly?  At first it is a sign of your nobility.  You wear your pharmaceutical and medical records with pride.  Even you crumble from the onslaught though when you receive a diagnosis of Fibromyalgyia-or bucket of symptoms with no clear cure. 

There is no way your healthy diet with incredible immune boosters could reach such depths of illness; one with no real explanation or cause.  Finally the universe makes you surrender your flock.  The special education cases are divided up into different classes and you are bedridden.  While in bed, a matriarchal relative visits you. 

Instead of spending time on healing you or your illness with love or concern, she only remarks on the “poor children,” about how she “wishes you would get better so that you could help them.”  Something finally cracks and breaks.  You scream, “The children, the children?  I have surrendered everything I ever wanted to help these ill children, and now instead of 120 ill children, we have 121 counting me!” 

You wish no ill will, but it finally dawns upon you that you were not serving what you loved or dreamed of, you were serving someone else’s idea of what you loved or dreamed of.  It was true that you loved children and dreamed of serving them, but it was your OWN children that you lived to serve.  You always wanted a family.  It was this relative who never had your opportunities and was an old widow that encouraged you upon HER path. 

That is right, her advice was to be what she dreamed of becoming.  In fact, she never served sick or ill children either.  It turns out that her son was placed into a home for those who needed assisted living and that this woman always regretted it.  Your life was spent fulfilling another’s unfulfilled dreams.  Now you are old and have fewer options than you once did. 

Yet life is never really over.  Options always exist to fulfill your desires in one way or another.  You remember this true advice given from a real elder.  A grandmother once advised you that life was short, and although there are many ways to serve the world, that the best way is to fulfill your greatest dream.  By doing so you show the world what beauty truly is.  It is not about stepping over bodies to reach success, but about making something beautiful inside and out. 

And beauty is the greatest oblation to humanity, the universe, and God.  It inspires and uplifts.  Unhappy or ill service only shows people that what you think of as noble leads to pain and untimely death.  While loving work illustrates the greatest example of fulfillment one could ask.  In simple words, a great friend once advised me “Never stay together for the kids in an untenable and unhappy marriage.  If you do, they learn that that is what love is and you perpetuate unhappiness upon them and your progeny.” 

You nurse your way back to health on your deep insurance and IRAs.  During this time you discover an ability to paint which you combine with all of your teaching certificates.  You become an art therapist, helping recover other over-worked and ill veterans from our society.  Eventually you meet eligible men with children and still hope to have your own someday.  Now your diet and fitness plans truly payoff.  Nothing is wasted on your quest. 

Not everyone has to wait for such extreme object lessons.  You can see it in obesity and inflammation throughout or society.  We and our children try forever to be something their not.  Some even achieve this illusion only to feel further alienated.  What do you do when you reach everything you were taught to aspire to and you are horribly unfulfilled?  This usually deepens depression, for which we further medicate, burying the issues even farther down then they already existed. 

After reaching the point of successfully unfulfilled, I sought a solution to the internal dilemma without food or drugs.  I had been overweight, addicted, and depressed before in my life.  I needed no more obsessions.  I had already served in deep religious capacity and in the military.  Neither gave me my answer, though they did illustrate my capabilities quite well. 

What I found was my journey.  Find your own.  By yourself, or with the help of others such as myself who have tried to cut a swath through the jungle of illusion in this glamorous world.

By | 2007-04-29T23:03:06+00:00 April 29th, 2007|Esoteric Wisdom, Health, Love, Perspectives, Philosophy|6 Comments


  1. Ray the Alchemist May 2, 2007 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    this was good advice, thank you Gou!

  2. perfectparadox May 2, 2007 at 7:10 pm - Reply

    You are very welcome Alchemical-Man. I hope to see you when I come up in June.


  3. Tatianne May 2, 2007 at 11:21 pm - Reply

    I am a friend of Yomi’s. He brought me to your postings, and I have enjoyed reading them. I just wanted to introduce myself, I will be reading frequently, and possibly ask questions of you. I enjoy the energy I feel reading this, and feel like my frequency aligns with yours, and it is soothing.

  4. perfectparadox May 3, 2007 at 7:05 am - Reply

    Welcome to the blog, and thank you for your introduction and comments. I look forward to hearing from you. Tell Yomi I say Hi!


  5. Zeratulss November 12, 2007 at 11:07 pm - Reply

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    Only 11% of Americans would agree implantable microchip in his brain, which would provide them with direct contact with the Internet. But the situation is changing, in the case of children. Almost every fifth resident of the United States would agree to equip their child safety device which would allow him to track the movement in space on the Internet.

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  6. perfectparadox March 12, 2008 at 11:37 am - Reply

    By definition, everything leads to God. It is a metaphysical truth well understood by philosophers. For that which denies the existence of God, tests one’s faith. That which proves the existence of God directly proves it.

    Yet the more advanced proof is that “God” signifies the immortal and eternal which is in all places true at all times. This is the infinite, the true definition of God-mind and manifestation. We are all one with this universe united by space and energy.

    Contrarily, I originally felt that chip implantation in humans would lead inevitably to slavery of man to his machines. Yet that is humanity’s legacy, to be slaves to our mind and its technology.

    There is no way to ever turn time backwards. If you want to see the past, keep moving forward until you find a similar expression in the present of your vision of the past. Thus, the only way to move is forward.

    Given the conclusions above, I feel our destiny is to merge our consciousness with our technology in order to transcend the physical or raise it to its highest expression. We are to become one with the technologies we create.

    My dream is to refine my consciousness and self-awareness such that it could tolerate an always on connection to the rest of all human knowledge and experience in the form of a chip or a “spiritual switchboard.”

    When the technology is ready to transfer human consciousness into one God-mind, yet separate; I hope that I am ready. I am happy to become the Ghost in the machine. Through this method we can become the truly immortal and space-faring species that we are destined to be.

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